Hi, my name is John Dows, founder of Inner Light Guide. I am a in my forties, am married with two little children, I have a masters degree in counseling, I am an Army veteran, and a professional men’s style consultant.

I am passionate about personal development, spirituality, and becoming the man I know I am deep down inside. I am also a hardcore, multi decade, PMO and Edging addict. I have been edging to porn since dial up, and the addiction has continued to take over my life and gotten much worse over the years.

I have been trying to quit PMO /edging for many years, experiencing brief periods of abstinence followed by countless relapses, that have led me to lower bottoms each time. That is, higher tolerance, ever worsening extreme content, increased risk taking, opportunities and relationships destroyed, and the looming question of what it will finally take to quit once and for all? Will I wake up in time and accept that PMO is adding nothing to my life and only robbing me of myself and my potential, or will my luck run out and the hammer finally come down on me in a violent destructive bottom that will have me begging to go back in time and quit PMO on my own before it occurred.

I am not a guru, I am not perfect, the siren that is PMO/edging still calls to me, but I am in the fight and am fully committed to breaking free from this addiction and experience who the man is on the other side of PMO/edging. I am fully convicted that it will be a death bed regret if I do not face this now, once and for all, and give this fight everything I’ve got.

I am currently experiencing the longest PMO free streaks I have ever had getting into multiple months and not just days/weeks. I am learning slowly how to fully give up edging and fantasy, which have been my life long go to’s for escape and comfort, I am becoming the man I have always wanted to be, and I am living a life that is compelling and full of purpose. I can truly say my life has become an adventure, that I have a purpose that drives me, I am rebuilding my relationships with my loved ones and becoming a much better husband and father, and that pleasure has returned in a massive way in the simple things in my life.

I am building a life that is more compelling than PMO/edging which takes massive consistent effort and focus, but it is definitely worth it! I have gotten my life back, my voice back, my essence back. PMO is life stealing, I have walked around for the last 10+ years feeling like I have nothing to contribute, nothing to offer others, and have just put on a mask and been agreeable. I no longer do that, I have found myself again and you can too!

I started ILG to teach men the exact strategies that I use in my own life that will enable them to break free from PMO/edging, to get the light back into their eyes, to get onto self improvement, and to ultimately find their purpose in life.

I have dreamed about being in the self help space for many years and aspire to write self help books. Through years of therapy, 12 steps, religion, spirituality, self help, personal development, education, experimenting with many techniques, meditation, sobriety, recovery and on the flip side, many years of active drug, alcohol, and PMO/edging addiction, I am uniquely equipped to teach from firsthand experience, and really get into details, ensuring I can articulate exactly what I do and what works, and not simply theorize.

All of my guides on this blog are offered to you free of charge. They are all concise and include practical actionable steps that you can begin to implement in your life immediately to help you get free of PMO/edging and to massively improve your life. Everything can be done on this blog at no cost to you, I pour my heart and soul into these guides, and if you follow them and are all in, you will experience massive positive change an growth in your life, your eyes will be glowing, your loved ones will notice a change in your energy, and you will build a life of purpose and meaning that you never thought possible!

I will also be offering paid in depth audio files to supplement the written articles. This will give you a more detailed intimate view on these topics and techniques and a fuller understanding of the process of becoming PMO/edging free and finding purpose. These will be for sale on my site in the near future. If you find value in this blog and my work, then consider supporting me by also purchasing these audio guides. Either way, the tools are here on this site to massively change your life for the better, I am just grateful you are here!

Now come join me on the fight for your life, to do what most men never do and face your PMO/edging addiction fully head on, to walk through your fears and discomfort, take massive consistent action, and to become the man you truly want to be deep down inside. Let’s build together a life of meaning, of purpose, and adventure. Let’s burn the boats one by one, ensuring there is no going back to the old way that is the life stealing force of PMO/edging addiction.

I am truly grateful that you found this blog and have decided to go on this journey with me. I look forward to maybe speaking with you one day and hearing about your journey. Do not hesitate to reach out if you have any questions or comments for me.

Thank you for your support.

-JD